Searching for Love

Breaking Free Fom Obsessions, Fantasy, and Emotional Dependence

Do you feel stuck in an emotional loop you can't escape—thinking about someone who isn't truly in your life?
This Isn’t Love. It’s Limerence is your compassionate guide to breaking free from the painful cycle of emotional obsession, one-sided attachments, and fantasy-driven longing. If you've ever asked yourself:

• “Why can’t I stop thinking about them?”

• “Is this love or just emotional addiction?”

• “Why does their silence hurt so much?”

...this book will help you find answers.

Limerence isn't romantic—it’s a biochemical survival response triggered by inconsistent attention, unresolved trauma, and unmet emotional needs. In this relatable and deeply validating guide, author Valerie G. Woods walks you through the patterns behind emotional fixation and offers healing tools to help you reclaim your peace.

You'll learn:

• Why limerence mimics love—but is rooted in reward-chasing and anxiety

• The neuroscience behind obsessive thoughts, emotional cravings, and ghosting

• How to regulate your nervous system and rebuild self-trust

• How attachment styles shape your vulnerability to fantasy bonding

• What healthy, grounded love actually feels like

If you’re tired of waiting to be chosen, stuck in mixed signals, or feel like you’re losing yourself in someone else's emotional unavailability. This book will help you let go with clarity, compassion, and power.